Wanna know the secret to impressing any girl you like?
It's easy.
Just remember the 2 magic words:
"Don't try"
Okay, let me elaborate.
When you're focused on impressing a girl, here's what it signals to her:
1. You're just another guy trying to get her pants
2. You desperately need her approval
3. You don't feel like you're a high-value
guy
In summary, you come across as super unattractive to her.
So, what should you do instead?
How do you actually make her see you as a cool, attractive, high value guy?
Well, follow these 3 tips.
Tip #1: Expression Over Impression
One of the biggest mistakes I see guys make is self-censoring.
You don’t know what her ‘rules’ are…
So you dial yourself down and do your best to avoid saying the wrong thing.
But when you censor yourself, you are less funny, interesting, exciting, and emotionally salient for her, which causes her to get bored.
Besides, in her eyes, it positions you as a guy at the bottom of the food chain.
Think about it like this:
People in charge don’t
self-censor. Only the people who are afraid of them do - their servants.
So from now on, anytime you interact with a girl, your sole focus must be to express yourself as best as you can.
Forget about making any impression. Good or bad.
Don’t “try” to be funny. Don’t “try” to be
interesting. Don’t “try” to be charming.
Simply express yourself without hesitation, and without any filter. Just like you do when you’re with your friends.
When she sees she can’t “tame” you with her opinions, she’ll see you in a whole new light.
Tip #2: Unlimited Options
Principle
At first, when you start to value expression over impression, you'll find that...
...the urge to "impress" arises in your mind from time to time.
You'll try to manage your behavior... your look... your words... your stories... and so on...
...in order "be
impressive" to her.
You'll do this because your brain fears that... if you don't...
...you might "lose" the girl you're talking to.
At this point, you need to remind yourself of one fundamental fact:
“Dating is a game where you have
unlimited chances”.
There are unlimited girls in the world that you could potentially date!
Which means, there's no need to get stressed over this one girl.
If you mess everything up and never see her again... you'll still be okay.
And that’s because...
There will ALWAYS be another girl. There will ALWAYS be another opportunity.
Reminding yourself of this fact will de-stress you....
...which in turn will help you express yourself freely.
Tip #3: Unconditional Trust
When you interact with a girl, you need to trust that anything you say or do is naturally charismatic.
Don’t look for external reasons to trust in that fact. Just do. What will happen is...
...your brain will actually make sure that whatever you say/do IS naturally charismatic.
This is because... your brain is built to make you act consistent with your beliefs about yourself.
Meaning:
If you believe you’re boring, your brain will make it so.
If you believe you’re awesome and charismatic, your brain will make it so.
It doesn’t discriminate. It simply ensures that you’re “in line” with your beliefs about yourself.
This phenomenon is called the consistency bias by psychologists.
And it can be very useful to you IF you make the right use of it.
Now, when you
apply these 3 tips, you’ll find that... 9 out of 10 times...
Girls will pay you a LOT more attention.
And if you also have your flirting game down, she’ll see you as that charming, cool guy no woman can dislike.
In fact, science has proven that good banter can 3X your chances of getting a
date.
That’s because it immediately gives you high social status with women… so no need to worry about your looks or empty bank account.
Shame most guys are so bad at it :(
If you still fumble for the “right words” to make her eyes light up... here’s a couple of options you might want to
consider:
Or be the guy who … ya know … he’ll get there one day … maybe …?
(Marni tip: if choosing is hard, you’re probably not ready ;)
The BEST Female Friend You'll Ever Need,
Your wing girl,
Marni
P.S.
Learning to flirt and banter like Russell Brand on steroids needn’t take years of practice.
BUT I get so much crazy love for this little gem that I now offer a totally crazy 2-year money-back guarantee.
That said, Richard certainly didn’t need it…
“Marni, you're a LIFE CHANGER! I truly have you to thank, in large portion, for the ability to realize my potential. My girlfriend, now of about two years, thanks you too although she's a little jealous. ;)”
Hehe - Richard knows how to keep his gf just a
tiny bit jealous - and make her love that he’s doing it ;)