Do you want to know the secret to instant instant attraction? In order to attract a woman and make her desire you, you first have to become a man women want.
In the past few weeks, I have had several coaching sessions with men who did not realize that their actions were killing attraction with women.
These guys would go on successful 1st and 2nd dates and then BAM!!!!
It's over.
It wasn't until speaking with me, that they realized the mistakes they were making were killing attraction with women.
So they would literally go
from:
"OMG, I want him now" to "OMG, how do I get away from this guy".
Horrible but AVOIDABLE!!!
This made me realize, that you may be making the same mistakes
without even knowing.
And of course, I would NEVER want that!
So I wrote out a list of the Do's and Don'ts to ensure you don't make this mistakes ever
again.
I you are doing any of these things...STOP RIGHT NOW!
These Do's and Don'ts are for those who have gotten past the first and second date and are on the way to exploring the options of a
possible relationship.
1) Text or call her twice a week:
Keep it short, brief and
non-needy. There is nothing wrong with saying a quick hi as long as that quick hi is not satisfying an urge for you.
2) Focus on the moment and make an effort to make sure things continue to go well.
No need to focus on the future especially in the
beginning stages.
Take your time and make sure she is for you.
This is a testing period for both of you so don't forget you are involved in the decision as well.
3) Reciprocate physical affection but don't go overboard.
NO love poems, mixed tapes or novel length emails. At least not until your first year anniversary.
4) Share your interest with
her:
We want to get to know you. A man with a passion is the sexiest type of man.
5) Control your desire for her.
Think about where the desire is coming from. If you are
trying to control an emotion and acting impulsively don't do it.
6) Appreciate her body. Tell her she is sexy.
7) Don't pressure her sexually.
A woman pressured is a woman that will not feel free to be sexual.
Let her feel that she is involved in the process of opting into sex.
8) Show her you trust
her.
Men with walls who distrust all women are by far the most unattractive specimen of man. Be cautious but don't let past baggage carry over.
Don't...
1) Compulsively text or call her every time you think about her.
Gagging just thinking about that one.
2) Physically dwell on her.
Too much kissing and obsessive hugging is annoying.
3) Give her constant reassurance.
If a woman needs constant
reassurance there is a disconnect.
Either there is something you are not giving her or she has some past insecurity.
Get down to the bottom of it and figure out what can be done to make her feel more comfortable.
4) Throw yourself too quickly into a person you barely know.
Take time. You are allowed to go slowly and figure out if this new woman is someone you want to invest your time in.
Remember, you had a life before her. Respect
that.
5) Exaggerate your physical ardor and enthusiasm for her all the time.
6) Talk about your exes and compare her to any of them.
Even if your intentions are good, we
do not like it!
7) Dwell on the past.
As said above this is a fresh start so past baggage is not needed and unappreciated.
8) Overwhelm her with food or gifts.
9) Be defensive.
Listen to her and don't take everything she says as a test.
Read my blog on The Shit Test so you can
understand how to handle "tests from women"
10) Get jealous of every man that sets his eyes on her.
11) Make sex a display of desperation or a time to show off.
Remember she is there to and she feels "like a hole" she is going to tense up and the experience will not be as great as it could be.
12) Expect things to stay the same forever.
Gain the confidence you need and ensure you avoid all dating mistakes
forever!!
Watch this video and learn how:
