Have you ever been texting a girl, and everything seemed to be going well...
But she wasn't giving you that much back?
Maybe you would send her something like...
YOU: How’s your day going?
HER: good just chilling
…
And then nothing.
It’s hard to keep an interaction moving FORWARD when she’s not asking you anything back.
Looking at the above text interaction, there are a few things you need to understand.
First of all, if you’re talking with someone you haven’t gotten that close to yet, sending her “how was your day” is a little bit weak. It’s not emotionally engaging.
That’s part of the reason why she’s not investing when she’s texting back.
Now in this email, I want to show you a real-world text conversation from one of my students, Chris, where he was able to turn it all around.
You’ll find some comments from me in [brackets].
Leading up to this point, she's just told him that she's a preschool teacher…
STUDENT: don’t tell me you like working with rugrats, pffff
[MARNI NOTE: notice how much more emotionally engaging this is compared to “how was your day” – a light playful challenge]
HER: what’s wrong with that!
STUDENT: kids are evil, can’t trust em!!
HER: you can so!
STUDENT: they’re so wily haha… how’s Toronto treating ya?
[she’d previously told him she was on a weekend trip to Toronto]
HER: good… just been laxin today
STUDENT: I hope laxin is code word for something cool
HER: re laxin
[MARNI NOTE: throughout this interaction, notice how she’s replying … but not investing or asking any questions back. At this point, Chris realizes he needs to push back a little.]
STUDENT: ya don’t ask about my day, it’s fine ;)
HER: Sorry
HER: I’m a bad texter ;)
[MARNI NOTE: notice what happened here – my student’s text demonstrates that he is a high value guy who expects to be treated better… while the winky face makes it just playful enough that it doesn’t put too much negative energy on her… well done!!]
STUDENT: haha yeah you are!
HER: hahaha so what are you doing tonight?
…
BOOM!
This is a great example of turning around a text conversation that seems to be going nowhere.
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