Itâs a question Iâve been asked by countless men in my career as a Wing Girl.
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And while itâs true that some women (and men) definitely do play hard to getâŚ
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New scientific research shows attitudes about this are changing.
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The Article shows how college-aged women made no attempt to hide their sexual desire from men they were interested in sleeping
with.
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In fact, the opposite was true.
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Women tended to act a little more interested in sex than they actually wereâŚ
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Whereas guys tended to show less interest in sex than they actually felt.
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So it was actually the men who were downplaying their interest, while the women made it clear they were available.
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Why would this be the case?
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Well,
one of the theories is it has to do with the changing culture around dating and sex.
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Guys donât want to seem too sexually aggressive, while women feel more empowered about their own sexuality than in past generations.
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The other thing is that men arenât as persistent as they used to be.
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Why?
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Because as a society, weâre talking more openly about the fact that âno means
noâ.
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So if a woman is showing signs of disinterest or playing hard to get, guys are more likely to back off so as to avoid crossing any barriers...
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Which means a woman risks losing a guy now if she doesnât give him enough positive signals that sheâs into him.
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All of this makes sense. My personal take is that technology has contributed to this also.
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With dating apps and social media, we
live in an age of instant gratification. If someone isnât interested in us, we can just swipe on our phone to find someone else who is.
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Itâs much less common these days for a man to spend time pursuing a woman in the hopes of winning her over.
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So in a lot of cases, itâs just not in a womanâs best interest to play too hard to get if sheâs attracted to a guy.
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Now, what does this mean for
you?
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For the most part, the signals a woman gives you will be a pretty accurate reflection of how she feels about you.
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That means if your experience is that most women are âplaying hard to getâ...
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The truth is that in most cases she simply isnât that attracted to you.
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If she ignores your approach, she doesnât want to talk to youâŚ
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If she talks to you but wonât
give you her number, she doesnât want to see you againâŚ
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If she never wants to be alone with you, she doesnât want to sleep with you.
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However, there is an upside to all of this.
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If youâre getting any of these signals that sheâs not interested in youâŚ
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Itâs simply a reflection of how she feels IN THAT MOMENT.
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Just because sheâs not attracted to you right
nowâŚ
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Doesnât mean she canât be tomorrow⌠or in an hour⌠or even 5 minutes from now.
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Thatâs because her attraction for you is largely based on your behavior and actionsâŚ
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And if you change those, you can change how she feels about you.
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So what are the behaviors and actions that will make her attracted to you?
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Go check it out and you can thank me later :)
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The BEST female friend youâll
ever need,
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