The single biggest reason most men don’t get the girls they want isn’t looks, money, status or luck...
...it’s because they feel the “need” to get the girl.
Let me elaborate. (Read carefully because this is insanely important).
Here’s what happens to most men.
They see a girl they like. They experience that raw, primal attraction. And then...
...they start feeling a strong need to impress the girl, make her like them, gain their approval.
In other words, they start obsessing over a particular outcome. They start to crave it.
And this is the part which screws their chances.
You see, when us girls interact with a guy who is craving an outcome...
...as in a guy who needs us to like him, want him, sleep with him and so on...
...we’re instantly turned off - even if he’s the hottest, richest, most high-status guy on the planet.
We’re biologically wired to be repelled by a guy who’s craving an outcome.
That’s just how our female brains are built.
On the other hand...
When we interact with a guy who doesn’t feel the need to impress us, be liked by us etc...
...someone who isn’t craving an outcome...
... we’re almost instantly turned on by him... and... 9 out of 10 times we want to have $ex with him...
... even if he isn’t the type of guy we usually go for.
This state of not needing a particular outcome is called outcome detachment.
And it’s a total superpower.
It attracts girls like a swimsuit model’s body attracts men.
This state is why “bad boys” get girls non-stop. They are never concerned about the outcome.
When they see a girl they like and want to sleep with... ... they don’t obsess over the outcome.
They’ll approach, talk, flirt... but... they’re okay with the girl rejecting them.
They’re detached from the outcome.
They “want” the girl, but they don’t “need” her.
Now you’re probably wondering how you can achieve this state, right?
This sounds all simple and logical when reading it, but how do you actually cultivate this state?
Well, here are 2 easy ways.
Number 1: Focus only on matching
You see, the reason bad boys are okay with rejection and girls not liking them... is because...
...they understand the fundamental truth about dating.
They understand that no matter what you do, you won’t “click” with every girl... especially if you’re being authentic, and not trying to manipulate girls using a fake persona.
They interact with girls they like to see if their vibe “matches” her vibe.
If they get rejected, they understand that it was simply a mismatch of vibes.
Nothing else. There’s nothing wrong with their character.
And that’s the attitude you must adopt.
When you pursue girls, focus ONLY on matching.
When you interact with a girl, show her your unique personality, opinions, interests, sense of humor etc...
... and just see if she matches with you or not.
That’s what dating actually is. Looking for matches.
Number 2: Maximize your chances of getting matches.
While it’s true that you won’t match with every girl, it’s also true that there are MANY girls you would match with. More than you can possibly imagine.
I mean, there are more than 3 BILLION girls on the planet.
At the very least, you’re guaranteed to match with hundreds of thousands of them. At the very least.
That means, if you wanna get more women, more dates, more often...
...you simply need to exploit the abundance of matches available to you.
How to do that?
Two simple ways.
A. Open up to finding more matches.
Explore more places, use dating apps, meet more girls, approach more often.
More interactions = more chances.
B. Unleash the most attractive version of yourself, so that you can make the most of every interaction you have with every girl.
You see, inside you, there are many amazing qualities and characteristics which are naturally attractive to girls.
Things like confidence, charisma, playfulness, dominance etc.
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