Every week at least one guy asks
me how to best confess his feelings to the woman he’s into.
He wants to know what words to say that’ll make her feel the same way.
But I always tell these guys the same thing:
STOP thinking you should tell a woman how you feel about her.
Look, I totally get why men think this is a good idea.
After all, we’ve been raised on Hollywood films where the guy always gets the girl
after he confesses his feelings for her.
But in the real world, it rarely plays out that way.
Why not?
Because sexual attraction isn’t a logical or rational process.
If you tell a woman that you like her…
She doesn’t suddenly have this epiphany of, oh he likes me, well now I’m going to choose to start feeling attracted to him.
A guy who can show he’s into us with his actions, and not just his words.
Because when
you think about it, what does it really convey when you confess your feelings to a woman?
It’s basically saying, “Hey I like you, but I don’t know what to do about it. Do you like me too?”
It’s seeking permission from a woman to act on your feelings towards her…
Rather than having the confidence to go for what you want.
So the only time that confessing your feelings really works is when
she already feels the same way.
But in that case, almost anything would work e.g. you could simply pull her in and kiss her and she’ll kiss you back.
So, here’s a simple way to think of this:
You should always be focused on creating her attraction…
And not confessing your attraction.
Come from a place of confidence and respect and act on your
intentions.
That’s what we really desire in a man.
Now, if you don’t know how to do this…
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