By being a nice guy?

If you’re like most men, you’ve heard the saying “nice guys finish last” at some point in your life.

And whilst it’s true, it’s not for the reasons you might think.

The truth is, having good manners, being respectful, caring, so on and so forth are traits that are highly desired by attractive women.

See - the REAL reason why nice guys finish last is because they’re either exhibiting many other qualities that don’t spark attraction.

That makes them seem boring.

That doesn't make attractive women see them as someone who they can potentially date.

Or worse, they’re doing things that make them seem downright creepy.

Now you might be thinking:

“Marni, what do nice guys do that make them unattractive and what would you suggest doing instead?”

So without further ado, here are 3 reasons (there are many more but here are the main ones) and the solutions:

1- They don’t state their intention

Nice guys typically beat around the bush and never communicate their interest.

They would rather play it safe by befriending her…

And hope she reciprocates interest…

After a few months, or even YEARS.

Except, she never does.

The problem with beating around the bush and hiding their intentions is they’re doing everything a friend (or God forbid a brother) would do.

There’s no sexual attraction present.

There’s no clear male to female dynamic.

There’s no clear intent. 

So in other words, a nice guy is exactly like all her friends, or her brother…

Which means the only logical thing to do, is to toss them in the friend zone. 

Now I get why so many men don’t want to state their intentions.

Maybe, they don’t want to seem creepy or come off too strong.

Maybe, they fear getting rejected.

Maybe they don’t want to seem desperate.

And look, not all women will be receptive to a guy who clearly states his intentions. 

Some will think that particular guy is coming off too strong or seems desperate…

Whatever it may be. 

But here’s the thing.

If you let your intentions known to that attractive woman, think of this as a win-win.

Let’s say you tell a woman you would love to get to know her more and take her out on a date.

One of two things will happen.

She will either agree to go on that date. Congratulations!

Or she’ll say no, and you’ve saved yourself a TON of time and energy because you know exactly where you stand with her.

You’ve saved yourself months, or even YEARS trying to befriend her and hoping she likes you in return.

During that time, think about how many women you could approach?

Think about how many of them would love to date you?

At the absolute bare minimum, a few right?

That’s also a win!

So again, make your intentions known to every woman you would like to date.

Here are some examples of how you can go about it:

Example 1: “I saw you and I thought you were cute so I had to come over and say hello. What’s your name?”

Example 2: “I would really love to get to know you more. Put your number in my phone so we can set up a date this weekend.”

Example 3: If you have a feeling she wants to be kissed, go for it! (As long as it’s not in a creepy or uncalibrated manner). 

Yes, doing all this might make your stomach churn at first.

But again, think of it as a win-win.

Think of it as a risk you have to take, if you want the rewards.

2- They’re afraid of conflict

Nice guys will typically agree with everything she says.

They’ll miraculously like all the same things as her.

They’ll laugh at jokes she tells even if they’re not funny.

They’ll never banter with her.

And the list goes on.

All in an attempt to get her to like them and not ‘rock the boat’. 

This is also conveying to the woman that they’re exactly like one of her friends.

That there’s no tension and hence, no attraction.

Similar to the point above, I also get why guys fall victim to this.

They don’t want to say something that may be offensive.

They don’t want to say something she won’t like and cause them to get rejected.

Or maybe, they don’t want to potentially ruin everything and send her running in the opposite direction.

Again, this can and will inevitably happen at some point.

But similar to stating your intentions…

Creating conflict by disagreeing with her, telling her ‘no’, teasing her, etc…

Is all necessary to sparking attraction in her. 

BUT, the key to getting this right is balance. 

You don’t want to disagree with everything she says, just for the sake of it.

You don’t want to say no to everything she suggests. 

And you don’t want to tease her thinking you ‘have to do it’. 

You want to do all this from a place of authenticity.

Here are some examples of what you can do: 

Example 1: 

Attractive girl: “My favorite movie is Star Wars.”

Attractive guy: “I don’t really like Star Wars. I like Fast and Furious because I love cars.”

Example 2: 

Attractive girl: “Do you want to go to this Mexican restaurant this weekend?”

Attractive guy: “I’m busy this weekend and I’m not feeling Mexican. Let’s try Italian the weekend after?”

Example 3: 

Attractive guy: “Oh you like pugs? You have strange taste in dogs” - said in a joking manner. 

Attractive girl: *Gasps*

Here’s what you should NOT do:

Example 1:

Attractive girl: “I like French food.”

Guy trying too hard: “I hate French food.”

Attractive girl: “I really like sushi.”

Guy trying too hard: “I hate sushi.”

Attractive girl: “I like Italian food.”

Guy trying too hard: “I hate Italian food.”

What the guy trying too hard is thinking: “I’m just going to disagree with everything she says just for the sake of it, because this gooroo I googled online told me to do so.”

Example 2:

Attractive girl: “Can you please do this?”

Guy trying too hard: “No.”

Attractive girl: “Do you want to go bowling instead of playing golf?”

Guy trying too hard: “No.”

Attractive girl: “There’s this new restaurant that opened up last week and everyone is suggesting it. Want to try it out?

Guy trying too hard: “No.”

What the guy trying too hard is thinking: “I’m just going to say no to everything she asks because it’s better than always saying yes? Right?” 

Example 3: 

Guy trying too hard: “You look fat in a white dress.”

What the guy trying too hard is thinking: “I HAVE to do everything I can to bring her down. It’s better than being a nice guy right?”

What the attractive girl is thinking: “Um…Wtf is wrong with him?”

So to reiterate, be true to yourself.

If she says something you genuinely disagree with, call her out.

If she wants you to do something but you really don’t want to, say “no”.

And don’t be afraid to have some fun and banter with her.

Just don’t do all this from a place of malice.

From a place of “having to do it” because some guru said so. 

3- Nice guys are not actually nice.

This ties in with the points above.

See - they’re only nice because they want something from that girl. 

They want her validation.

They want her to like them.

And they’ll do anything like agreeing with everything she says, pretending to be her friend, etc. to achieve this.

In other words, they’re nice with an ulterior motive. 

And women, especially attractive ones, can sense it from a mile away. 

To avoid being ‘that’ guy, the fix is to GENUINELY be nice to EVERYONE.

The waiter.

The shop assistant.

The receptionist.

Etc. 

Make your intentions clear right off the bat with the woman you’re attracted to.

Build some tension with her.

Be the best version of yourself.

And don’t do all this because you want something from her.

Do this because that’s who you are.

That’s when ironically, women WILL be attracted to you! 

So give this all a try, and you’ll start seeing success with women right away ;) 

P.S. This is all just the tip of the iceberg.

There are so many other ways to make yourself instantly more attractive, and stand out in an attractive woman’s life…

While still being kind, well mannered and respectful. 

Without needing to be a degenerate a**hole.

And this is where I come in.

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