Let me ask you a question.....
Do you have a hard time starting up a conversation with a woman?
Or sealing the deal and escalating things further than just the initial convo?
Either way, you’re in luck - a reader of mine
recently reached out to me to talk about an experience he had that I thought was AMAZING and I wanted to share it with you.
For two reasons:
This guy’s approach was almost perfect. He got the conversation started, got her laughing and built up attraction from the
get go.
He made a misstep that most guys make when they’ve nailed the initial part of chatting a woman up and I want YOU to see where it happened.
Alright — so let’s dive in:
Hotel.
60 people.
Happy hour.
After a long day’s work, Roger (not his real name, privacy!!!), a consultant gets treated to a couple of drinks at the bar by his boss since they’re staying at a hotel for a big project they’re working on.
Now - Roger has been through
my F Formula course recently and decided to put what he has been learning to the test.
He spots a group of good looking girls and makes his over way the group.
I want to repeat that for you because before
getting the F Formula there was no way in hell that Roger would ever approach a group of women.
He makes introductions, giving off good
vibes the entire way. Eye contact, firm posture, smiling. The whole 9 nine yards.
Then he pops in a question I HIGHLY recommend you use next time you’re with a group of people: “I wanna ask you something… who in this group of 60+ people do you think would be the first to go to jail?”
GREAT QUESTION.
All attention from the group
turns to him and every woman in the group is engaged in this question.
The reason why asking an interesting and fun question like this is so good, is because they immediately trigger the primal brain.
A.K.A – This will capture her attention. At least for another 30 seconds.
Plus it's kind of naughty. Thinking about people being in jail....
thinking up all the bad reasons they could be in there.
It's a sly way to get into more "dangerous" territory, in a safe way that won't offend.
Gives permission to others to go this non PC place. The place that most conversations stay in.
I thought it was great.
As Roger engaged the group and listened to a few
responses, he got closer to the one woman that caught his attention.
He stood beside her, listening to the responses and then leaned towards her and whispers in her ear while pointing to one of the guys there with INSANELY tight pants “Definitely that guy over there for indecent exposure, look at that bulge…”
She starts laughing her head off (<—GREAT sign, if a woman is laughing) and puts her hand on his arm…
JACKPOT.
She also did something very important in the escalation phase that I want you to pay attention to.
But now - Roger is faced with a dilemma most guys face after this…
WHAT DO YOU SAY NEXT? Where do you go from
here?
The longer the conversations went, the more uncomfortable he got.
He didn’t know what to say. He had only started reading The F Formula and was not going blank on what to do next!!!!!!
But he could tell she REALLY wanted to continue talking to him.
The tension got so high, he ended up slowly maneuvering his way out of the interaction.
The night
goes on and he happens to pass by her as a couple of guys went over to talk to her.
She looks at him totally confused and then gets back to her new pursuers.
I myself have had this happen soooooo many times.
I talk to a guy, I show him I'm interested and then he goes away.
I used to think it was me (and it probably was many times) but now I know that this is not the case at
all.
So what could Roger have done?
Two things:
If Roger was getting stuck and overwhelmed with the conversation, he could have excused himself while the conversation was on a high.
Gone to the bathroom to calm down and collect himself and then gone back out there to re-engage the conversation.
When a woman is into you, there is nothing better than removing yourself for a short period of time and have her thinking "where is he and I wish he would come back"
He could have gotten deeper into the F Formula ;-) .
Now listen - if you want to learn how to flow in conversation like a MASTER… think James Bond at the bar chatting up Ms. Universe…
Then I can’t recommend F Formula enough.
Roger’s going through it right now and look at the way he succeeded with this woman and this group. He would have never done this
before and I was so proud of him.
If you want to find out the exact ways you can approach a woman and keep the convo going all night long while escalating then
check it out by clicking
here.
Your best and last female friend,
Marni
