I have some tough love for ya today…
You know, attracting women can seem so much harder than it actually needs to be.
Guys think they need all kinds of pickup lines, techniques and gimmicks…
Even things like pumping up your confidence are not truly necessary to create attraction with a woman.
All of that stuff CAN help, don’t get me wrong…
But what a lot of men forget is: women are automatically attracted to men, just as men are to women.
All you really need to do is… not act weird.
“Umm, duhhh Marni, thanks”
I know, it sounds obvious.
But hear me out:
Have you ever felt like you needed to DO SOMETHING to earn a woman’s attraction?
Have you ever wondered what to do NEXT to get her to like you?
I’m about to tell you a bittersweet truth:
The only reason you feel like you need to “DO” something to “earn” her attention and attraction…
Is because you FEEL like you’re not already enough AS YOU ARE.
And when you feel like your value is somehow lesser than hers… you automatically feel the need to overcompensate.
And that’s when the neediness and weirdness comes out.
Actually, neediness is the #1 killer of attraction for women.
They can intuitively sense that you’re not OK with yourself. It sets off red flags.
So when you’re acting from that mental headspace… you’ve already lost.
And especially with extremely beautiful women, simply having the ability to have a normal conversation with them without being weird… is a surprisingly high bar.
Most men can’t do it.
Take some of the pressure off. Assume she likes you already. And just get to know her. Be lighthearted. Have fun.
There’s a million and one “theories” out there on how to be more attractive to women. But if you ask a guy who’s a natural with girls? They all say the same thing:
“Umm, just be yourself, man!”
This is what they mean.
Once you realize you’re already enough as you are, all the need for tactics disappear.
You’ll just be that naturally attractive guy who can just be yourself.
Sometimes, a few tactics can be useful to help you make that journey.
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